Why don't people get it?

I have been officially ill for about 6 years now and still people don't get it. The more I take a look at the world, the more I realize that most people don't understand the total effect that pain has on the body nevermind that of the human spirit. Take for example my husband.....
He has been on me for months to loose weight thinking that I will feel better without all this weight I carry around. Doesn't he remember that when I weighed less than I do now I was in MORE pain???? Sorry but in some cases weight does not equal more pain!!!!! Wake up people!!! Sometimes we can't control what our body does.
And people wonder why pain patients get such a bad rap!